I wonder if a high sex drive and a love of kink are linked. I wonder if it’s possible to have an unusually high libido yet only desire vanilla sex and, conversely, whether anyone has a strong urge for kinky sex yet doesn’t really care whether they get.
Surely if you love sex and want it often, you’re not going to do the same thing each and every time. Does having a high libido push one to look for thrills that vanilla sex just cannot satisfy? Maybe some people actually do want to have sex three times a day, missionary, with the lights out.
I guess it could be possible for a person’s thoughts and fantasies to be wild, crazy and taboo but they just doesn’t feel like acting them out very often because they really can’t be bothered. Possible, but it doesn’t seem very likely to me. I mean, those who love BDSM, for example, usually really, really love it. I’ve never heard anyone say, “Yeah, I kind of like it when they tie me up, gag me and then use me roughly, ignoring my pleas for mercy. But I’m not that bothered really. I can take it or leave it.”
There must be a connection somewhere in the brain between a person’s sexual needs and fantasies, but I wonder what it is and where it comes from.
What do you think?